Sunday, 8 May 2011
My Soul mate Sunday post is on fear today.
Fear in relationships mainly. But fear is fear however it manifests and can be vey destructive in your life. Just to be clear I’m mainly talking about emotional fears not the fear of physical danger e.g. walking alone on a dark street or the fear of falling overhead power lines :-)
It was after we lost our dad... in fact it was a few minutes after when I said to myself that I would not allow fear to stop me from doing anything I really want to do ever again. Somehow – my aim was to transfer my grief into courage – so... any time I think back to my dad I feel stronger.
What that means in reality is that even if something makes me really nervous or the thought of it terrifies me – I’ll do it anyway. I think of the worst case scenario briefly (hide my head in my hands :-)...and it’s usually something silly like embarrassment !! Or something equally minor – and then I think of the best. Then… all I would really care about is the best...I’d focus on the best … the reason I’m putting myself through whatever it may be.
Does that make sense to you?
Fear - can block your chances of finding happiness - fear of the unknown – what others may say – fear of things not working out. Yet - that sense of trepidation needs to be balanced - or replaced by a sense of unbridled joy that things will be just as you hope!
Fear can ruin communication - in that it may prevent you from really hearing what the other person is saying – or prevent you from being honest about your own feelings.
Most people will feel a sense of fear/panic at some point – but once you’ve acknowledged it - you are then more able to put it into context and share with the other person exactly how you feel. They will not only appreciate your ability to connect with them emotionally but you will probably become closer as a result..x