Hi all...I hope your weekend has been an enjoyable one! My Soulmate Sunday post today is on including your partner in your life.
Is it okay to still act as though you’re single even if you’re in a relationship?
Maybe I should define ‘acting like your single’... well... it’s difficult but I guess I mean spending lots of time on your own – never really mentioning your other half in conversation or even acknowledging they exist! Being a social butterfly when it suits and doing your own carefree thing.
It’s an odd one because I believe it's important to give the other person space – yet on the other hand - too much and it could seem as though you don’t care! – or you rather they went their own way...permanently.
If your other half doesn't like it and you continue nonetheless that really would be quite selfish don't you think?
I think problems sometimes arise when people act – not in a way they want to act but.. they act according to relationship ‘rules’ such as not appearing too eager - or whatever else they may have been told by friends or read in a book. Although advice can be useful it can also mess you up a bit in that what should be the most natural thing in the world suddenly feels like work and becomes stressful - and insincere.
Relationships in many ways tend to let you know their own unique needs/journey/tempo – and to be honest it's often quite normal for one person to feel a bit put out if their other half is not always on the same page.
It tends to be women who say things like ‘you’re not spending enough time with me’ or 'we don’t spend enough time together’ Men quite often tend not to ‘hear’ until it’s too late. Or - maybe - the feelings they have just aren’t strong enough. After all...when a man loves football he watches football right? When a man loves his friends he spends time with them right? When he loves his car he spends time with his car!
I guess what I’m saying today is – if you do have feelings for someone – let them know. If you want to spend time with them - do so. If you don’t feel that way – then maybe they’re just not the one… who knows?
I believe there’s someone for everyone – and you get more than one chance at love – to find that special person.
It’s always fun finding out – however - take care not to go breaking hearts recklessly